I feel your pain; I sometimes delete one message and the one next to it also deletes and then must be located and moved back to inbox. No, I am not aware of any such feature or addon.

There is/was an add-on (extension) called ConfirmBeforeDelete, which did a wonderful job. It also had an option to prevent accidentally dragging a folder into somewhere else, and several other useful ones.

  https://addons.thunderbird.net/en-US/thunderbird/addon/confirmbeforedelete/

However, as of September 30, 2024 that was last updated November 22, 2023 and that version is only compatible with Thunderbird versions up to 115.* (not 128.* or later).

You might try reaching out to that add-on's developer and perhaps offer to make a donation for his time to update it.

If he is not able to, we'll have to keep watching to see if someone else picks up the project.

I agree with the many people who posted comments on that add-on's page: This feature should be built-in to Thunderbird. It's just too easy to accidentally hit the DEL key at the wrong time.